I'm heading to Florida this weekend to participate in a "golf-retreat"  with more than a dozen men.. some of whom I attended college with.... most of whom will be turning 50 this year.  Hard for any of us to fathom!

I can't wait for the fun and connection... but also can't wait to learn what they've learned in the years we've mostly been apart.  I was also asked to  facilitate some discussion around

1. where we've all come from

2. what we've learned

3. what we want to be sure to carry out in the next leg of our journey

Does that make you want to come?  Or definitely NOT come?

It's had me thinking about what would have been helpful to know SOONER rather than later "growing up."

• Where we were deficient

• What could have saved us a lot of pain

• What might have freed potential.

The fact is I graduated from one of the top schools in the country and didn't REALLY know some of these 20 important things may make you question how these were missed along the way... or why they were never taught.

And, yes, I realize some will only be learned the hard way... but must they all be learned the hard way???

There's no particular order of importance here... and some may  be more important than others. You decide.  Here they are....

1. How to recognize the signs of depression and how to without medication.

2. How to Love Ourselves

3. How toLove a Woman

4. How and Why to Forgive our Parents (especially our dads) 

5. How to Know and and Abilities

6. How to Own and Overcome Our Fears

Fear steals SO, SO much of the best of our lives and keeps us playing small.   We fear being seen as foolish... and being rejected and thus unloved.... which relates to #7.

8. How to Values in Everyday Life.

9. How Eat 

10. How to and a Niche that Needs Us.

So many of us graduated from high school, college or even grad school with little or no clarity on what we LOVED and WHO we would help and NEVER tire of helping.  We would have been well served to learn to detect sooner what desires were inside us of and who had needs and problems we wished to solve and attend to.

 12. How to Make and Manage Money

13.  How to Care for Our Souls and Stay Emotionally Healthy and Resilient

14. How to Find Our Bigger Dream, Purpose or Story  (What make us never want or need to retire!)

15. How to for Life

16. How to Heal Breaking Relationships (before they become broken ones)

Having either experienced our own broken relationships or those of friends and family,  we now realize that being able to heal and find help BEFORE it becomes crisis or separation would save huge amounts of pain, grief and hurt.  Learn how to mend and heal even when things seem great!

18. How to Keep and Make Friends

19. How and Why to Manage Our Energy.. not just our time.

Managing our energy helps us set goals more consistent with who we really were!

Well, WHAT DO YOU THINK?

I will know more after next week... might even post an update!

Love to hear which ones resonate...  (especially if you're in your 20's and 30s! Or you too are turning 50!) and PLEASE ADD YOUR OWN BELOW!