I was recently sharing my journey of mistakes, missteps and mess-ups with others as part of a virtual coaching group.
I shared it's been difficult to limit my own passions in my career, partly because I've had so many diverse life experiences and goofs. My list included experience with everything from career change to pastoral burnout, carb addictions and relationship chaos. (Not proud of any of them... Just real)
The other coaches part all seemed to hone in on my experience with having gone through burnout, particularly while serving as a pastor.
So, what do good coaches do? They force you to say, "What's up with that?" "Why did you experience burnout at such a young age?"
Here's how I responded to them:
like crawling under a rug
chronically feeling like a failure!
All classic symptoms of burnout... and depression.
I'm an expert! I've done them and paid for it!
So, this is no clinical list or study... just my own observations. Take em or leave em for you.
So, to beat burnout (or burnout proof your life) DO NOT...
Jesus taught a lot about this one! It's even possible to know the Greek of it and still not listen. In Matthew 6:25-27, Jesus taught.
26 Look at the birds of the air; they do not sow or reap or store away in barns, and yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not much more valuable than they? 27Can any one of you by worrying add a single hour to your life
Yet, how much of drivenness, anxiety, disappointment.. .and yes even depression ... comes down to simply breaking this clear and simple command: DO NOT WORRY ABOUT YOUR LIFE.
If fear is driving your activity, ask yourself: Why? Is this really a good activity? Is there another way to do this? Not do this?
Can worrying add a single dollar to your bank account?
Can worry make you love your career?
Can worrying create a better relationship?
Ultimately , we know it's true. At the root of most worry. FEAR. Likely "False Evidence Appearing Real."
"Do not fear" really is the best way to live! And stay living!
I was recently challenged by a coach in my life to consider whether my desire to please a person in my life was actually making them an "idol." "Ouch!" I said out loud.
What do you mean "idol?" I asked.
"Something you've put above God Himself. Who or What you're really trying to please."
Yet, seeking to please them may actually be more about self-love and self-protection than loving them. Again, "ouch"
If you NEED something from them in return for your service, is this really all about serving them? Or serving you?
This vicious cycle will not end well. Or it leads to burnout.
Finally, burnout can spring from running from this to that with to this to that without really knowing to do what Stephen Covey called, "The main thing is to keep the main thing the main thing."
Burnout can come when we don't know the simplicity of what we and we alone are called and gifted to do... then letting others do what they do. We fail to keep our thing the main thing. We do work we weren't meant to do.
There really are enough hours in the day to do what we are gifted and meant to do - but NOT what we were never created to do and should not be doing.
Challenges in our journey? Yes. Mandatory. "In this life, you will have difficulties." (Jesus)
Burnout as a destination? No. Optional. : I was recently sharing my journey of mistakes, missteps and mess-ups with others as part of a virtual coaching group.
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