I was so proud of our "staycation" Caliguire Family Labor Day weekend. Why travel anywhere far when you have so much right near home? No hassles, headaches or excessive mula spent! THEN I logged in and encountered Curtis's post: pictures the amazing family vacation in Europe. Big Ben. Royal Palaces. Dinner on a cruise ship. The kids posing in front all hugging and smiling with their arms around each other. They titled it: "Family Eurotrip: Round 2" Ugh, we haven't even done the Round 1! Then there was Matt and Kim's pictures and posts from Hawaii. "The best part of waking up is Kona in your cup," he writes as I sit at the table surrounded by our partially folded family laundry. Then, I see Scott's uploads: pictures hiking with his wife in Switzerland! NOT FAIR!! I really, actually struggled with this! Of course I'm not proud of it... : (
So when author Caryn Rivadeneira quotes from a blog post called "Carla is Jealous of Your Facebook Status," it kind of summed up one of my biggest dream-killers and "makes me feel like my life stinks" creators: Seeing other people's Facebook Status Updates and being... well.. um.. Jealous. Envious. Just, sometimes even a little wishing my life was more interesting, exciting, rich, full, meaningful, picturesque, and well.... perfect like the rest of you all!
This whole thing of Facebook Post Envy may be one of the underrated "make my life seem mundane" and even meaningless creators these days. I once only imagined what the Jones were up to: Now I get to read about it online, see the pictures, the comments from their scores of admiring-friends and sometimes even watch the video from the comfort of my own sedentary life.
Besides Vacation Photos, here are some Categories of My Personal Facebook Envy:
Your Lakehouse: I know this is related to the vacation ones.... but NOW you even own the place! And of course the sunsets are amazing! And the perfectly fitted kitchen, and the sun room, and of course the deck with the mountain view...
Your Perfect Romance: There's the cute love notes back and forth and the pictures of you and Lovey hugging in the setting sun. The expensive date when you "checked in" at some exotic French place with the waiter named Pierre. Of course, I'm glad for you... but then I think of my last date night at Red Robin and think: "Dude, you lose!"
Your Cute and Competent Kids: Yes, they're amazing! They're always smiling and don't cuss at you or tell you you're a lousy parent and "There's no good food in the house!" And don't they always win the baseball trophy, the perfect report card award and get a full ride scholarship to the U?
Your Clever Posts: Somehow Jim's posts always have some kind of insight that gets me laughing or thinking for a while. "Apple starts with "A". Baby starts with "B". Car starts with "Key" Or: "Lawn sprinkler guy is here. Jesus works on water." Then of course, he gets 20 comments after each.... which leads to the next.
Your 20 Comments: People like Jim and Joe get comments even if they sneeze or move their toe! Joe says he's pouring a cup of coffee and people from around the world chime in! 35 likes. I post something "clever".... and its crickets! (Well, I thought it was clever!)
Your Countless Opportunities: Yes, Angela speaks to audience of thousands all over the place and her books ring the bell on Amazon. Bill gets yet another big sale. My own wife hanglides in Rio on her "business trips!" I head to the office and forget the cord for my laptop at home! AArgggg...
Your Exercise Regimen: I now know that you ran 18 miles training for your marathon (sponsoring 39 children in Africa) and can even track my friend Tim on his 7 mile runs. My college roommate Gregg posts,"Got a personal best set of 25 pull-ups yesterday." And I was proud that I took the dogs for a walk yesterday and looped the whole park!
So the truth is: sometime Facebook Envy still gets the best of me. It doesn't do good things in my soul and I need to own it: "I'm feeling jealous right now." Yes contentment is a spiritual issue and I should know better. "Sorry God." In fact, it's actually pretty great that I have friends with so much going on... and so clever and that can do more pull ups than me!
AND Might Facebook Updates even remind us that most of us really do have some pretty incredible lives? We're extremely fortunate and have some great things worth celebrating and sharing. And if you perused my FB, you might even think "What's that guy thinking?" Yes, I do have cute and competent kids and my parents own a lakehouse! And Jim once commented on my clever comment!
Then again, it might be fun to start posting some of my moody junk (just to encourage the rest of you of course!) "I feel like eating potato chips and chocolate all day and never exercising again!" "My son thinks I'm a cheap skate and a jerk!" "Still stuck in traffic." "Yuk again today." "Could ya just pass the Prozak?"
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