The heroic athlete boldly declares that things are not as they seem. In fact, he vehemently denies what he's been accused of. The media ambushes him with microphones, flashing cameras and in the "strongest possible language" he claims that he's been wronged.
The tragic story sounds so familiar in the last few months. It sounds like Lance Armstrong. It sounds like Manti Te'0. It sounds like OJ Simpson. This time, it's Oscar Pistorius.
Can you really believe that he thought his beautiful model girlfriend was an intruder as he insists? Really? Why not pre-judge Pistorius?
Because sometimes things aren't as they first seem. None of us were in that upscale home in South Africa on Valentines Day. Even if it's mentally strenuous to stay in the zone of mystery, we just don't know.
I confess that I have a hard time living in the zone of the oh too often "not sure." I like things more straightforward. But, weren't we so "sure" that Lance Armstrong never doped? Weren't we so"sure" that Manti Te'o fabricated the whole girlfriend saga to gain media attention?. Even if "innocent until proven guilty" is the way it's supposed to work, judging with a bit of evidence feels so much easier on the brain. Either this..or that.
Truth be told, most human beings have a hard time living in the foggy zone of not knowing. Instead of being OK with "withhold judgement until the evidence is in" and "innocent until proven guilty," I find myself judging and aiming for all black and white. Is he a monster or role model? A charlatan or champion? From heaven or the pit of hell?
I discover this pre-judge propensity inside and feel so uncomfortable ancient theologians called the "cloud of unknowing." It's where we abandon all preconceived notions of the way things work and even how God works and courageously accept that we just may not have all the answers at this time.... even if they exist. We would rather have a "Disneyesque" version of life. (I do!) We wish upon a star and dreams come true. Heroes are always heroes. The plot comes together into a neat story at the end and the good guys win.
Can we be OK in not knowing, at least not knowing some things, and still moving forward with what we do know in the dark? Dreams too?
Or would we rather convict the innocent and free the guilty? Would we rather be a success or a failure. A world changer or a wishful thinker? A leader or a loser? Sometimes, we need to just suspend judgement and be OK.
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